Inspirational Quotes and Passages that were helpful to me during my IVF and our infertility journey.
Scripture is not only the word of God, it is beautiful poetry and literature.
If scripture intimidates you, try reading it for the first time through the eyes of a poet.
“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
I would pray this over and over as my husband gave me the six daily “stim med” shots in my abdomen. I held a wooden pocket cross in my hand because it was something tangible that represented God’s promise. Although the pain in my bruised stomach was almost unbearable, this scripture gave me the strength I needed to overcome the pain. It is my absolute favorite verse, and is an easy one to remember!
”Don’t let these waves wash away your hope”
“He settles the barren woman in her home as a happy mother of children.”
Although I experienced secondary infertility and became barren after giving birth to my son, I found that reading God’s precious promise took away my fear. Hannah, who was barren and grief stricken, went to God and prayed. God listened to her and blessed her with her boy, Samuel. I have recited this verse a thousand times.
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.”
God actually invites us to ask Him for things! He already knows our true thoughts, needs and desires, even without us telling him, and as we pray we’re participating in a relationship with God. Although it can be difficult, He wants us to remember our blessings and be thankful for them, even when we are going through challenges and dark times.
“For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.”
Before going through IVF, my husband and I had never prayed together before. We started the morning of my first shot. In the beginning, it was awkward so I prayed straight out of a Stormie Omartian book. But I started to get the hang of it and it became more natural. When two or more pray together, God is always present. We found it so comforting to pray together. It brought a deeper intimacy to our marriage and drew us into unity with God and each other. It is still something that we practice today! We make it a point to start off every Monday morning in prayer as a couple.
“And sometimes against all odds, against all logic, we still hope”
“Jabez cried out to the God of Israel, ‘Oh, that You would bless me and enlarge my territory! Let Your hand be with me, and keep me from harm so that I will be free from pain.” And God granted his request.”
I Chronicles 4:10
This scripture was on my mother in law’s bathroom mirror since my husband and I started dating. I never understood what it meant until I was in the midst of my infertility journey. If we acknowledge God, and that all blessings come from only Him, we are declaring ourselves as followers. By asking God to multiply our territory, it isn’t in reference to actual land but instead it refers to impacting and growing His kingdom – asking him for more responsibility. Reclaim what has been taken from you! God has the power to protect and lead us through our challenges. Let Him know that you are ready for Him to turn your weaknesses into His glory! With that can come spiritual warfare. Ask for a hedge of protection as you are growing your faith.
”We loved you before we knew you, even when there just hope for you- we loved you.”
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.”
Proverbs 3:5, 6
This is my gestational carrier’s favorite scripture! It is also one of my favorites. My husband and I had to submit ourselves to God, and trust that He knew our hearts desires. This verse was truly one of the most difficult spiritual lessons we faced, but when we were finally able to turn this over to Him, we felt tremendous peace. Remember – it is about His timing, not ours! Submit and trust
“God knows that it doesn’t matter how your children get to your family. It just matters that they get there”
“God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.”
2 Timothy 1:7
Oh boy! I am a constant worrier. That spirit of fear would creep up on me from time to time, especially after a miscarriage. Fear and worry is not from God! One of the hardest lessons for me to figure out was that by inviting fear into my mind, I am not trusting in the Lord! During moments of fear, I would pray to the Holy Spirit to replace those feelings with that of joy. Sometimes the fear would be such a strong emotion, that I would pray every couple of minutes until it was gone. But the repetition of praying for joy to replace fear worked!
“Those who plant in tears, will harvest shouts of joy.”
How To Pray
Prayer is, simply conversation with God. Some of us choose to pray silently and others pray out loud. If you have never prayed before but are wanting to learn, here are a few tips:
- The Bible does not give us one system or pattern for prayer. I prefer to pray out loud, but my husband prays silently to himself. There is no right or wrong way!
- Be intentional and prioritize a time to pray and reflect each and every day. It doesn’t have to be long, promise! Even if you set aside two minutes in the morning while you are in the shower to pray, you will feel refreshed.
- Prayer is a two-way street! Be still, meditate, and listen. God talks to us in many different ways…
- He might send a message through a human “angel” such as a friend or even a random stranger.
- He might bring a thought into your mind.
- For some, he might be a voice in your head.
- For others, he might show “signs”.
- God can alter circumstances.
- Start your prayer with thanksgiving. For me, it took some practice. I was so depressed and obsessed with becoming pregnant, it was hard for me to focus on anything else. The reason it is important to is because we are acknowledging that our blessings come from Him! He loves to be praised and thanked. Thank Him for the roof over your head, for the blessings of friendships, a job, of family, of little things like no traffic on the way home from work, etc. – the more you practice, you will become more in awe of all of the blessings around you.
- When praying, God loves for us to repeat His words back to us! If you want to just get comfortable praying out loud, start with reading Bible verses that you connect with. If you don’t know where to begin, you can simply google it! For example, you can google “scriptures for infertility” or “scriptures about worry” (or insert whatever emotion you are feeling).
- You can also go to a bookstore and find books on prayer and read verbatim! God doesn’t mind, promise. As you have more practice, you will become more and more comfortable with it.
- This one is BIG – one of the best lessons I have learned is that God speaks in clarity, not confusion. If you are confused about which path to take, it’s the devil! Keep praying until things are clear.
- Be specific as you can in your prayers! Express what is on your heart. Now, I wouldn’t ask the Lord to win the lottery. But things such as finding the right doctor, giving wisdom to your medical team, discernment to you and your partner in which path to take, praying over your body to come in agreement with the Lord and function perfectly. Believe in your healing!